July 3 - Trauma
When we are traumatized, we have one or more of the following responses:
(1) fight (aggression)
(2) flight (physically or psychologically leaving)
(3) freeze (becoming numb)
Any of these responses preclude the normal working through of a situation by experiencing and confronting it, assessing options and making choices. When life experiences are not "lived through," they are stored in an unfinished state, absent of adequate closure.
It is as if they are stored in suspension without the context that accompanies normal experience. When events are stored by the brain in this manner, they become part of our storehouse of "unfinished business." They form what comes to be the root of a hunger that cries out for action or completion.
It goes on to say the following:
Today if I see myself acting out impulsively, I will ask myself what wound is trying to be heard and seen. Rather than continue to act out, I will quiet down and listen.
I am willing to know.
God gives, but man must open his hand.
German proverb
** My thoughts on this in a bit. **
